It doesn't matter if your marriage lasted 20 years or just one, whether the break up was amicable or acrimonious, or whether or not you have kids – getting back out there after a divorce can feel daunting.The most important thing is that you feel ready to do so.First off, it's normal to feel a little anxious or wary about the prospect.You may also find that things have changed since you were last single and available.Online dating, once considered the last resort for the desperate or socially inept, is now one of the main ways to meet potential partners.It can be particularly good if your social circle consists mainly of other couples, or if you feel you have ‘lost' friends who ‘took sides' after the divorce.When you're ready to date, there are ways to get yourself out there again: You don't have to resign yourself to a single life until your kids are old enough to be independent.
Don't hide the fact that you've got children but don't go on and on about them either.The last thing you want is to give the impression that you're looking for a substitute father/mother.There's no need for young children to know that you're dating until you meet someone serious.You might tell older children that you're looking for a new relationship. Children may bond with your new partner and be very upset if you break up, so don't do it too soon.
Some children may feel that the new partner is ‘replacing' their other parent or worry that you won't love them as much.
You will have to reassure them and show them that you will.