Each woman will show it differently, some won’t show it at all, but she’ll feel it. These intense moments of mass anxiety will build up and make us feel literally insane. Maybe in that moment of caring, all of our wires cross and light up. ◊♦◊Would you like to help us shatter stereotypes about men? It’s time men understood this—our private experience we don’t usually discuss in mixed company—in hopes you can understand us a little bit better and not judge, run scared, or think we’re nuts. And only for a little while, until we get talked back to earth. ), but this video on “Mens Brains Womens Brains” might offer some funny insight. We worry about the like the CEO or the business owner or the renowned scientist. As someone who has studied and taught the body’s adrenal responses to stress/fear and anxiety for over fifteen years, I can tell that “Love Panic Attack” freakout produces some powerful stuff!And yes, it can happen for the most mature and astute of women. It’s like having a “Love Panic Attack.” *this is different than the crazy insane where someone begins stalking you/constantly calling or texting you or boiling bunnies or anything dangerous. Receive stories from The Good Men Project, delivered to your inbox daily or weekly.But, we’re in the midst of a neurochemical hot mess meltdown attempting to sabotage our thinking while we’re externally trying to pull off “normal” or even worse “causal.” You can forget aiming for Cool Girl. We might be a CEO, a concert pianist, a neurosurgeon, or a world class athlete, but invariably in our freakouts it will boil down to us feeling like a goofy mess. Are there red flags or reasons why we shouldn’t be dating him? What about our laundry/job/that extra few lbs we put on/our finances? It could be the subject of another article (or series of them! Our trusted girlfriends will listen to every single detail as if it matters that he said he thought it was great that we both liked the beach, and wouldn’t it be fun to hit the beach together someday … But in those moments we feel like we are all of those things. Did we upset him by saying the wrong thing/doing the wrong thing/being the wrong person? Is now a good time in our lives to date this person? We know which wires to cut, and which wires will send our friend off into another mini-panic explosion. Even women who tend to be sought after by a vast majority of men will go through a Love Panic Attack when they find someone they really really like, or they realize they are being sought after in this particular relationship. I’ve seen it happen to models and women you would assume don’t have relationship concerns, so don’t assume. Which is why treating each other with respect is pretty much de rigueur.
It's hard to believe this is still a thing but you often hear it given as "advice." Basically, if you are walking home from your date and you can't wipe the smile off your face because you had such an amazing night, then tell them!
Stopping yourself from communicating for the sake of seeming too eager is just silly.