Having great questions ready for every date can help her open up—and maybe get her laughing.Sharing intimate details—and laughter—can help you spark a connection, research finds. You’ll find more than 2,000 tips on how to be irresistible to women and live a longer, healthier, more kickass life.) One smart line of inquiry: Ask about her job.“People love knowing that you take their work and ambitions seriously,” says psychiatrist Carole Lieberman, M. Another idea: Fire off whimsical questions, like what, as a child, she wanted to be when she grew up.If that makes her laugh and open up, keep the offbeat questions coming.Unexpected topics can provide more insight into her personality—and opportunity for flirtation—than typical get-to-know-you chatter. For more ideas, we asked women for the best questions they’ve ever been asked—or what they idea would be. I’d call it Arnold.) It was great because it’s unexpected.It’s a fun way to get insight into how someone’s mind works and what they like to think about, and it opens up a conversation rather than ending it.” —Alana R. That turned into a full-blown conversation about what we’re both looking for, not just in relationships, but in life.When that aligns, I find the first dates to be much more successful.” —Viv C.Related: How to Tell If She’s a Keeper.“The most memorable [question] was when my boyfriend asked me which weird Tinder pickup lines people were using on me, so we both started sharing.
Then when he started asking about my siblings, I knew he was there for more than just a first date.” —Sarah L. “This might sound a little silly, but I would want someone to ask me about my name.Not in the ‘Oh, your name sounds exotic’ way, but sincerely inquiring about the meaning of my name, its origins, and the importance of the name within the family. But the concert question is specific, and then you go from there.Maybe it’s too much for a first date, but it holds a lot of significance for me and would show that someone is actually interested—and curious—about who I am.” —Saba A. You can get into a good story when you have a great opening like that.” —Suzee S.“I really liked when one guy asked me for the latest concert I’d been to. “I would love if a guy asked me what my all-time favorite book was.